poorlifechoicesblog asked: Hey! A while ago, I saw a list of terms going around on tumblr that included a word for being primarily attracted to trans*/gender-nonconforming people (and it definitely wasn't "chaser"), but now I don't remember what it is. Is there anywhere you can point me?
I am actually not sure, since I haven’t personally seen it. However, I’m sure at least one of the followers who sees this may have an idea.
Help a person out, folks!
Assimilationism is the act of encouraging minority groups to become similar to elite groups. In the context of heternormativity/heterosexism, it is the act of encouraging gay, bisexual, pansexual, and otherwise not-straight folks to be more like dominant straight culture in various ways. Examples of hetero-assimilationist concepts and movements are the push for gay marriage, the push for the repeal of DADT, the butch/femme dichotomy, and the top/bottom dichotomy (though there are many more). Someone who supports hetero-assimilationism and/or actively seeks to be more like the dominant straight narrative is a hetero-assimiliationist. Examples of hetero-assimilationist organizations are the Human Rights Campaign (HRC), GLAAD, GLSEN, and most other mainstream LGBT organizations. Examples of anti-assimilationism and/or anti-assimilationists are BASH BACK and That’s Revolting! edited by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore. The major defining quality between LGBT/LGBTQ movements and radical queer movements is the desire to assimilate.
A cisgender person is someone who identifies as they gender/sex they were assigned at birth. For example, your birth certificate says female, and you identify as a female woman.
The colloquial use of cisgender suggests that it is the opposite of transgender. If you’re not trans*, then you’re cis (abbreviated form of cisgender). This is not entirely true, because there are people who transition (eg. take hormones, identify as a different gender than what they were assigned with at birth, surgeries, etc.) who do not identify as trans* or transgender.
Cisgender is an adjective and is sometimes used as “cisgendered.”
Queers love umbrella terms, because they are flexible and can overlap. Non-binary is another umbrella term and is considered to be under the transgender umbrella. When discussing trans* issues and you want to be clear that you’re including non-binary folk, it’s typed out as “trans*” (note the asterisk).
“Binary” refers to the western binary gender system of man/woman. People who are non-binary identify, at some point in time, as neither a man nor a woman. It’s possible to identify as a woman, for example, and as genderqueer at the same time. It’s possible to identify as a woman sometimes and as androgyne other times. Identifying as both binary genders is generally referred to as bigender or genderfluid, depending on that individual’s identity. These are both considered non-binary identities.
Some other non-binary identities are genderqueer, genderfluid, bigender, neutrois, androgyne, two-spirit (this is an identity reserved for the indigenous and goes beyond the western understanding of sex and gender, so it’s best to ask before making assumptions, as always), etc.
Non-binary is an adjective but is unlike other identity-related terms in that it’s not ever really used an a noun.
Genderqueer, Genderfluid, Genderpivot, Androgyne, Neutrois, Agender, Bigender, Two-spirit, Queer, etc.
in that it’s incorrectly used as an umbrella term instead of non-binary. I think it’s important to take note of colloquialisms and misuses of words, but I should have been more clear.
If you would like to see a word defined or if you want to propose an edit to any definition, leave me a message in the ask box please.
Genderqueer is a gender identity that generally refers to not identifying as male/female and/or as a man or woman. It’s possible for someone to identify as multiple genders, so identifying as genderqueer does not mean you do not or cannot identify as something else. It is a specific identity but is sometimes also incorrectly used as an umbrella term for non-binary (read: people who are not just men or women) gender identities. Some people prefer to just use the word genderqueer to describe their identity, some non-binary people don’t care for the term genderqueer to describe them (even in an umbrella sense) for a variety of reasons (use of the word “queer” which may implicate subversion when no identity is actually intrinsically subversive, potential political connotations, etc.).
Someone does not have to look androgynous in order to identify as genderqueer.
People often mistake genderqueer to mean that someone identifies as a point “in between” male/female and/or man/woman; it is often used as though it were synonymous with androgynous. Someone who identifies as genderqueer may identify as these things, but androgynous and genderqueer are not the same thing.
Genderqueer is technically an adjective but is also sometimes colloquially used as a noun.
Oftentimes, queer is considered an anti-oppression political identity as well as a sort of “fuck you” sexual orientation and/or gender identity. For many people, queer as a political often takes root in feminist thought. A good discussion of can be found here.
Negative connotative pronouns. It is when an average pronoun. ‘he, she, sir, ma’am, Mr. Mrs. Ms. Ect…) is used in an improper way to describe the gender of the person they are referring to.
E.g. Using ‘She’ to describe an FtM. Using ‘He’ for an MtF. Using either for someone who is androgynous/genderqueer.
Essentially, what every person I have ever told continues to use. (Pronouns sounded to positive)
Note: Not all FTMs prefer “he,” not all MTFs prefer “she,” and some non-binary folks prefer binary pronouns.
(e.g. gender, sexual orientation, etc.) are not definitive. This dictionary should not be used to tell someone how they should identify.